July 5, 2009
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An Unedited Weekend
We spent the holiday weekend with my parents at their little “getaway” spot. The weather was amazing….even a little bit cool…..which is very strange for this part of the country. It was nice having Brad with us for the weekend. For a brief moment, due to car trouble, we thought he wouldn’t make it. BUT…where there’s a will, there’s a way!
Somewhere in the weekend, after a few conversations about some people’s fear of commitment, disillusionment in how children “turn out”, or the ever climbing divorce rate, I started thinking about ….expectations.I thought about various things I’ve read about our beloved World War II generation. Guys that had spent years away from home, fighting a war on behalf of their nation and the people they loved, just wanted to survive. Many of them didn’t expect to live, but if they should make it, they wanted nothing more than to get back home, marry their sweethearts, get a job, and live. Drive a cab, work in their parents store, go to school. ~Breathing was a blessing~
Somewhere along the way, we began to hope for, and even expect perfection from ourselves and those around us.I started thinking about photography and how it’s no longer enough to simply document the faces and places of a moment in time. It must be edited, beautified, cropped, softened, and perfected. It’s got to look better than it actually is!

(I’m NOT knocking editing!! I love it and will be doing it tomorrow.
Photography is an art form and I believe God created and loves beautiful things….I think it honors Him when we use our tools and talents for creative expression.) …….just go with me on this for a moment and hear my heart. 
I thought about my grandmother’s few cherished photographs. You do well to find one where everyone is smiling. I thought about my parents wedding album and how much I love it. It was 1970. There were no frills, no “beautification” that happened in the photo development! But it’s a treasure to me because of the people and time it represents.
Even our homes have become showplaces. Heaven forbid there be a basket of unfolded clothes on the sofa when someone drops by. Or….how dare the laundry room actually LOOK like a laundry room. The purpose of a house used to be to meet the need of shelter. Our homes should be places of warmth, acceptance, and hospitality.
A safe haven. (And if you can squeeze in some beauty here and there , then marvelous! Just don’t make it the main ingredient.)My challenge is this. Enjoy life for what it is. LIFE.
Accept the beautiful and the not so beautiful. The smooth rides and the bumps. Every person, no matter how horribly imperfect they might seem has immense worth for reasons we can’t see with our physical eyes.Okay. That was a really long way to explain why this is a post filled with unedited photos from this weekend! Some of them are a little out of focus and have crying children in them, but I LOVE them because of how much fun we were having when they were taken. Sometimes raw best captures reality.

















Comments (19)
your kids are adorable just thought i’d let you know
@aMEMORYofTWOmondays - What a nice thing to say!
Thanks!
I love your pics –unedited or not! I haven’t learned to edit, so with mine, what you see is what you get. LOL! Your little one in the red dress (sorry I don’t know her name!) has such wonderful expressions! I love the one of her guarding. What a determined little face! I’ll bet she is a character! LOL! ~~ I have been thinking, too about this whole bondage of perfection. What a trick of the enemy to cause us to focus on that and use so much energy trying to attain something that rarely exists. Oh! For more REAL people serving God and living life realistically! I am not saying that we shouldn’t set standards and make things nice, but we have to face the fact that we are not perfect. That has to be OK. We have to find the balance between doing things with a right heart and a spirit of excellence, and the operating under the bondage of perfection. Looks like I almost wrote a blog on your blog!
As a photographer myself, sometimes I feel the same way-to just show pictures and people how they really are without all the editing. Although editing can really “make” a photo, Looks like you had an awesome 4th! I love that shot of your youngest with the flag and her back to the camera
I think this is amazing and you put everything beautifully. You have a wonderful family and I’m so thankful I had the opportunity to know you all. I can never express just how much you and your family have influenced me. : )
Love you
Stephanie
I loved seeing your “unedited weekend”… blurry or not, (which sure didn’t look to me) you guys are one adorable family! the shot of the kids falling backwards is great~ so real life, yes!
Liked your thoughts on expecting perfection~ and though I often joke and say I’m a recovering “OCD perfectionist,” truth is that nasty little tendency rears it’s ugly head all too often. Even over the weekend as we had a big party at our place I had to stop at one point and remind myself to simply let some things go…
How much better – and God’s way – that we strive to bless rather than impress!!! anyhow~ I hear your heart. and my heart agrees.
love ya girlfriend~
ps~ and yeah.. all my 4th pictures will need major editing – - I didn’t realize my AF points were switched. :/ when you talk about blurry pictures.. well, I’ll show ya some blurry!!!!
still, I love those little blurry faces smiling back at me! it’s life ~ sometimes perfectly focused. sometimes a bit fuzzy.
Amber sent me here. Great pictures (touched up or not) and EXCELLENT POINT made by you!
Came on Amber’s rec. Great family fun. I like all the red, white, and blue! I so agree with your thoughts. I love beauty and agree with you in using creativity to honor God. But in seeking contentment in Him it is so good to be fulfilled in all we have.
Awesome fourth of July pics.They’re beautiful just the way they are!Your colors are very striking!Sometimes unedited photos have a better way of showing”life” in a photo because they’re more real.
Enjoy life the way it is ~ So true.When perfection takes over in my life I can’t even enjoy life.I lose all my realness the way it really is.So beautifully written.Have a blessed day.
stopped by from Amber’s rec. Very beautiful pictures. I’m amazed at the difference in the pictures. You have a special touch with photography!
@DanishDoll - I think you have the beginning to your next blog! I’ve said it before, but you have lots of wisdom that needs to be heard! Thanks for the encouragement!
@Hutch5 - Ha! I need to come visit and let you teach me…..I don’t even know how to switch AF points!
Yeh, I ain’t kiddin’ when I say I’ve got lots to learn! Wow. I’ll get there……
Love ya!
Oh how I can relate to what you write here! Oh for simple times once again! The WWII generation is truly a treasure…If I’m at a gathering and someone is there who was young in the 40s? They are my buddy for the evening…usually a kindred spirit indeed. : )
I am so glad you said that on wash rooms, my goodness, they are being wallpapered now in special washroom designed wallpaper, special lamps…oh me oh my… and I’m happy if I get all the clothes washed at all! With four girls always washing and drying? My decor is bags of clothes, but that’s life right? Happy, joyful life lived!
I so enjoyed my little visit here… Your family is beautiful! Thank you so much for coming by, it’s such a blessing meeting you. Blessings! Cheers to the simple things in life! K.I.S.S. “Keep it simple sweetie” That’s what I always say! ; )
@ToLiveLoved - actually I didn’t know what was wrong… I had to ask a friend and SHE taught me about the little auto focus button and how you can move it around, etc.
so, don’t come here for lessons!
LOL, Love the expression of your little girl playing dodge ball—-arms spread, that, “don’t mess with me” look! Too funny!
And what are AF points? I would like to know!
Do you give lessons? I would love some lessons!
No pressure. With you unpacking and all with Four children.
Great post. Love this unedited weekend, seeing your children and “hearing” your thoughts on expectations. I am so weary of what the culture or ha! even religious circles tell me I must have or pursue…and yet I find myself caught in it or tripping over it. Trying to prove myself, my worth, my tastes even. They say I can’t just have a party, with say, just food. I need a theme. Matching dishes and coordinating patio furniture. And do my underwear match the inside of my shoes? Groan. The pressure is unending, the appetite unsatiable… How to balance what I love and am good at without using it to impress or measure my own worth?
Because I actually love themes.
And now.
Stepping down off the soapbox.
I can’t seem to catch up here! I’ve missed you and am looking forward to talking about school! I love when you stop by! It is going days in between even turning the computer on, and then it’s a quick read. No time to talk and I miss it! I know that I enjoyed your other posts and didn’t get to comment. I am so glad that you are back here!
Take care!
@down_onthefarm - yes. the undies MUST match the shoes. helllooo?! i, too like themes and prettiness! i think it is definitely all about BaLAnCE.
Well this was awesome, and just what I needed today! Thank you Amber for the rec.
You are right ~ its ok to like pretty and theme-y things, but its the balance that makes everything in order. God, family, friends..then if theres time…a pretty house. Thanks for the reminder ~
Blessings ~ Robin